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What Are You Acting Out?

Based on chapter 2 of The Advaita Life Practice by Jayant Kalawar now available at Amazon

Lets start with an examination of the roles we play in the three fields of activities: in relationships, at work, and with money.

In the relationships space we act out different roles, as we have learned them, in the fields of activity we are engaged in. For examples, at home we play the role of a father or sone, of a mother or daughter, of a husband or wife. I learnt what I have to do as a father from my father, my wife and, from trial and error, through the experience of raising my children. In my role as a parent, my family and my home are my fields of activity. The essence of my own parent role and the model of ow be a father are now embedded in me. These experiences and internalizations give me the knowledge of the field of activity, the family, my role in the play and how to act in it.

Whe we examine the roles we play at work, as subordinates, colleagues to our peers, partnersin a business, service providers to our customers, as bosses to those who report to us, we begin to see that we play multiple roles in this field of activity. In turn, each of these roles has its specific field of play and we learn the knowledge of how to act – as a doctor, nurse, lawyer, clerk, sales engineer, analyst, manager, etc. – in that theater.

In the money space, too, we have roles to play which must be learned and mastered. For example, we play the role of how to earn an income, budget, save and invest our savings – to ensure what is available is used appropriately, now and in the future for every member of the family. Or at least that is the ideal expectation of earnings parents.

By no means is the knowledge that one gains from the play or from our roles in the relationships, work or money spaces final. In fact, the roles and the scripts keep changing. The themes of the plays, the backdrops change along with the scripts. Consequently, we are constantly learning. As a parent, as our children grow, the activity in our role changes and we may find ourselves scrambling to learn that change. Change in our roles, in our play-spaces and in our knowledge about the play is a given. That change is a reflection of the ever-chaging ebb and fl0ow of universal energy.

My next post will address the question: Who is the Actor of the Roles we play?

Jayant Kalawar is the author of The Advaita Life Practice, available at Amazon.