Endless Endings

A dear friend lost his baby to a disease. There is no cure.

The twins lost their father to the twin towers.

They moved away. We lost touch.

We cannot pretend to know overwhelming sorrow that holds in bones of another.

Endings jerk us out of comfort zones. There is no warning.

I lost my job in 1992 when my children were beginning school.
I spent more time building a new career than with my babies. There was no time to

Just when we believe we are getting to completion, with desires full, we have to start all over again.

Endings that jolt us.

Endings, that make us aware of our messy selves.

Becoming aware
Of our messy selves.

Separate from
Everything else.

Cycles of desire
Ending with sorrows of separation.

Over and over

Relationships, work
And money
Striving for completeness.

Everything is permanent
Until it is not?

Are Endings
An exit from the dark
We keep missing
For we know not
The light?


Jayant Kalawar is the author of The Advaita Life Practice, available at Amazon.



What has Google spawned: Mayer, Sandberg and Glass

As the world of Maya continues its ever amazing kaleidoscopic dance, Google is playing a spawning role, accelerating change and delivering more and different experiences for us to enjoy. Pleasure and sorrow, the twin dualities are never too far, as always.

Marissa Mayer, a Google product, is playing to be one of the greatest turn-around artists aiming to rejuvenate the creaking grandfather of the Internet. The single-pointed focus with which she carries out her CEO mission while, along the way, she bears and nurses her child is to be applauded. With single-pointed focus, that is. As humans most of us are limited in how much focus we can bring to the table. Corporate missions suck in so much energy that employees cannot invest in any other activities outside their work. We are always looking to soar vertically, climb heights of success. Balance is a word that does not show up in this vocabulary. Talk of balance and snide comments about mediocrity and sentimentality follow.

Sheryl Sandberg, another Google product, is also out there talking about how not to underestimate and train oneself to present and work differently, in order to succeed in in the corporate world. It’s, once again, the single-pointed focus on corporate success. Only this time it comes with a self-help primer.

Men have burnt themselves out over the last ten generations as large-corporate ways of doing things took hold since the late 19th century (the Dow Jones Average started in 1884 with nine railroads companies and two industrial corporations. General Electric became the archetype corporation in 1896 when it was added to the newly formed DJIA. Today, it is Google all the way.) It is now the women's turn to climb the ladder. To succeed in the corporate world it seems one needs to focus, focus, focus; get to work and stay there, shower and sleep and eat there - bunk-beds and cuisines from around the world as inducements. The question whether this is the ladder to climb in life - for women or for men (or goats or camels or horses or dogs or cats, for that matter) - does not seem to cross our minds.

For such a question to arise, we would have to start thinking about human flourishing. And what is it that makes for human flourishing? Google seems to have the answer! The Google Glass!

Soon, all we will ever need to do is to wear this Glass and Google will feed us all the information we want and need (and more) on just about everything. And privacy be damned; we will be able to do whatever we may want to with that information.

Yes, fortune does favor the bold (hat tip Sandberg): Are we bold enough to question which ladder we want to climb? Or, are we going to blindly start climbing the only ladder we are apparently presented with, which reaches out into the Cloud (!) and then leaves us fumbling and wondering what the climb was all about?

Jayant Kalawar is the author of The Advaita Life Practice, available at Amazon.



Healing Our Self Inflicted Emotional Wounds

Most of us are walking
Unaware how we got here

Looking for happiness
Desiring simple pleasures
All the time

Desires laying down
The stepping stones to expectations
Of becoming this
Of becoming that
Having this
Of having that

Expectations unmet
In a fertile field
Sowing seeds of sorrow
Growing into weeds
Of anger and frustration

Sorrow, anger and frustration
Weapons of self-inflicted
Physical and Emotional

Unaware how we got here
Healing begins by
The compassionate observer
In us


I am grateful to Anuva Kalawar, artist and writer, for composing the term Locating the compassionate observer.

Jayant Kalawar is the author of The Advaita Life Practice, available at Amazon.



The desire to experience

Is the core energy
That beats in your heart
In every cell

You imagine an experience
And then struggle
To make it happen
And then struggle even more
To repeat

No end to desiring
To imagining
To making
To struggling
To repeat

What is this desiring?
Who is the desirer?

Jayant Kalawar is the author of The Advaita Life Practice, available at Amazon.


Happy Today?

Did you wake up this morning and say I am going to be happy today?

Will you go to bed tonight saying today was a happy day?

The day you answer Yes to both those questions,
Hold on to that day.

And repeat forever. Every day.

How you moved about that one day.

How your breath moved that day.

How your thoughts let you be free that one day.
Of all your anxieties and your fears of the past.
Of your expectations and your longings for the future.

That was the one day when you just were.

Neither in the past.
Nor in the future.





Jayant Kalawar is the author of The Advaita Life Practice, available at Amazon.

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