What Are Friends For?
Wednesday, December 19, 2012 at 5:04PM
Jayant Kalawar in Career, College, Health, Marriage, Parenting, Retirement, Romance, Savings, School

In this day and age when friending and unfriending someone is just a click away, friendships have been devalued to an extent that the word friendship has lost the vibration of playing a role in your life that is at once supportive of what you do in your comfort zone and also challenges you to step out of your box once in a while.

But for that to happen we need to be in a mode of self-reflection. To become aware of one's comfort zone and what role a friend plays in supporting you in flourishing in that zone. Today we are in and out of sound-bites and skimming on the surface. We may share profound 140 character sentences on Twitter. But they have no depth of context from the posters life experience. It comes across as inane repetitive imitation. And yes, it does enable free association within one's own experiences and comfort zone. But there is no sharing of experiences and learnings from those experiences that would then lead to change in the way friends interact with each other.

So ask yourself: how many friends do you have that you share experiences with and in the process learn how to be a more effective, compassionate person. What social processes are out there today that provide you platforms to do just that?

Then ask yourself: were Nancy Lanza and Adam Lanza emblematic of this lonely place called USA in 2012 that sees so much frenzied talking past each other, digitally or otherwise? Did either of them have friends to reach out to, even as their own lives seemed to be imploding, rather than flourishing, from living a life of material abundance punctuated apparently by fear and anxiety of losing it?

Jayant Kalawar is the author of The Advaita Life Practice, available at Amazon.

 

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